The Good Parent Test

    

Are you a good parent? Are you really successful in dealing with the problems that arise daily? Here's a fun test that will measure your current knowledge and ability. Don't take the test seriously, though. Just enjoy it!

 

    There are few all right or all wrong answers, but if you study the responses carefully, you will find one more nearly correct than the others.

 

    If you have children at home, answer each question according to how you would respond now, not how you think you should respond.

 

    Choose the response that most closely approximates your feelings. Choose only one reply.

 

1. If you were in a doctor's surgery and had to wait before seeing the doctor, what would you like to do while waiting?

 

1. Supervise my child's play.
   
2. Chat to someone in the waiting room.
   
3. Read Hello magazine on the table.
   
4. Read a parenting magazine on the table.
   

 

2. The most valuable gift I as parent can give my child is:

 

1. Self-respect
   
2. Love
   
3. Discipline
   
4. Quality time
   

 

3. I frequently discuss and seek child-rearing advicefrom:

 

1. No one
   
2. Friends and relatives
   
3. Books and seminars
   
4. 2 and 3
   

 

 

4. If my child frequently cried because the other children at school didn't like him, I would:

 

 

1. Help him find a special talent or compensating skill
   
2. Talk with his teacher about it
   
3. Spend more time with him
   
4. Talk with his friends about it.
   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5. Positive feelings of worth in your child can best be built by:

1. utilizing natural consequences

2. talking and listening more

3. spending quality time with your child

4. helping your child feel special, loved, and a secure part of a personal family

 

6. On average, how much time a week do you spend communicating with your child one-to-one without TV or other interruptions?

 

1. more than one hour

2. 31 to 60 minutes

3. 11 to 30 minutes

4. 10 minutes or less

 

 

7. If my child moped around the house complaining there was no one to play with and nothing to do, I would probably:

 

    1. send him to his room to play

    2. give him a job to do

    3. stop my work and play with him

    4. listen to the feeling behind his complaints

 

 

8. If I were watching my favorite program on TV and my child, without asking permission, switched channels, I would probably say:

 

1. I feel very irritated when my favourite TV programme is interrupted because this is the only relaxation I get all day.

    2. Hey, let's be considerate of one another. Please change it back to my programme.

    3. Change it back to my programme or you'll get a smack.

    4. can't you see that I am watching a special programme, you idiot?

 

 

9. If I called my child for dinner and she continued to play rather than coming, I would:

 

    1. go to her and forcibly bring her to the table

    2. threaten her

    3. call her again

    4. allow her to miss the meal and go ahead without her

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10. If my child were to throw temper tantrum, I would probably:

 

1. ignore her

2. imitate her by throwing one, too

3. deprive her of her favorite activity or toy

4. smack her

 

 

11. Parents tend to blame themselves for their child's behavior and rightly so because the outcome of a child is most dependent upon:

 

1. heredity

2. using proper child-training methods

3. parental example and environment

4. individual temperament type and how parents relate to it

 

 

12. In order to instill pure character traits a parent must develop in a child:

 

1. moral excellence

2. a pleasing personality

3. talent and /or genius

4. pleasant disposition and individuality

 

 

13. Responsible behavior and better habits can best be accomplished through:

 

1. natural consequences

2. consistent rules

3. parental example and loving home

4. rewarding positive behavior and ignoring negative behavior

 

14. The best way of controlling a 17-year old's choice of questionable peers is to:

 

1. invite the questionable friends to your home

2. move the family away from them

3. restrict privileges

4. forbid the association

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

15. If my 15-year old failed to clean his room and accept responsibility for common household tasks, I would:

1. clean the room and do chores for him
   
2. allow natural consequences to take over
   
3. send an "I-statement" about my feelings
   
4. try to motivate him through a contract system that manipulates privileges
   

 

16. The most effective means of keeping a youngster from experimenting with drugs is:

 

1. to provide the security of loving, well-adjusted family life

2. to send him to Christian Schools

3. to select his peer group carefully

4. to know the physical symptoms connected with drug abuse

 

17. It is now common knowledge that there is a direct link between delinquency and poor nutrition. Which of the following can be attributed to faulty nutrition?

 

    1. Reading problems

    2. Hyperactivity

    3. Running away and vandalizing property

    4. All of the above

 

18. The best way of handling sibling rivalry is:

    1. let children settle their own disputes

    2. love each child equally

    3. listen to both sides before punishing

    4. protect young children from older one

 

 

19. The diet our Creator chose for us consists of:

    1. meats and poultry

    2. grains and nuts

    3. fruits and vegetables

    4. 2 and 3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

20. Your 7-year old asks you where babies come from. You would probably respond:

    1. Babies are made when the daddy puts his penis into the vagina of the mummy. During

certain days of the month the mummy can become pregnant and a baby begins to grow in her uterus.

    2. When parents want a baby, they love each other in a special way and they'll have one.

    3. I'll tell you about it when you get older. Remember to ask again.

    4. Babies are delivered by the stork.





21. Your 5-year-old asks what it is the two of you do after you close the door of your bedroom at night. You would probably respond:

    1. I never asked my parents like that when I was a child.

    2. Ask your mother (or father).

    3. We sleep mostly. Why do you ask?

    4. Sometimes we sleep and sometimes we love each other in a special way and we want a

private place to do it.

22. Bringing children into the family:

    1. produces added stress fro couples throughout child-rearing years for those not prepared

for the task.

    2. decreases material satisfaction, particularly during the children's teen years.

    3. is more satisfying to women than men

    4. automatically increases marriage satisfaction.



 Source: Train Up a child by Nancy Van Pelt

Note:

Please keep your answers. Scoring and interpretation will be posted in a couple of days.